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Rolling the sex dice - and coming up trumps

It's something of a truism to say that having a stroke changed my life in lots of ways. It ended my career much earlier than expected, it nearly killed me, it almost ended my marriage BUT.....It gave me a whole new circle of friends, a new reason to enjoy living, something to do with life and a willingness to try new things.

"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got' is one of the great truisms of life. It's supposed to be the definition of insanity. It's one of the first things I learned about life post-stroke. I'd been given a second chance, so I needed to grab it by the balls, so to speak, making the most of every opportunity life gave me.

One of those opportunities was the chance to write this blog. Before my stroke, the idea of trying out new sexual ideas and going public (albeit anonymously) about them in a blog would have been one of the furthest things from my mind.

But it's all part of the same mindset I hav…

How shutting down one of our senses enhances others

When I sit down once a fortnight to write this blog, I do so with the assumption that my readers have gone past the point of being satisfied with 'ordinary' penetrative sex.

That might be because the effects of a stroke have made penetrative sex difficult or impossible, or it may be because they are no longer satisfied with 'just' having penetrative sex. It may also be because they and their partner have 'grown past' penetrative sex and are looking for something more in their relationship. As someone pointed out to me this week, the 'bouncing off the ceiling' sex we enjoyed in our twenties is probably neither possible nor appropriate when we are in our 50s, whether we have had a stroke or not.

Too many of us, men in particular, wish we could go back to those days - the days when we could call up a nine-inch erection on demand, when we could cum four times a night, when we could change positions every half-hour and still have a screaming orgasm. But what…